10 Ways Parenting Styles Affect Children

10 Ways Parenting Styles Affect Children

There are four parenting styles that many experts tend to agree with. They are authoritative, authoritarian, permissive, and uninvolved parenting styles. Each of these has its own impact on the children’s behavior later in life, so it’s important to know what the differences are between each one and what your options are to choose from which one will work best for you and your family.

1) Parents who give their children choices

giving children ownership over aspects of their daily lives, such as picking their own outfits or deciding what to have for dinner, can help them feel more independent and less like a child. This is also important because it teaches kids that they can have a say in big life decisions. Giving kids too many choices might confuse them or create too much stress. As parents, don't feel like you're letting your child down if you're not giving them choices all of the time; pick your battles! If it seems counterproductive in some situations (ie: when there's a lot going on or an impending crisis), then don't make it into a big thing and give simple commands instead.

2) Parents who take on roles of their children

Over-involved, smothering parents can make kids feel controlled. Moms and dads who try to act more like their children than as authority figures will cause stress for them. This causes conflicts between parent and child over boundaries, which leads to less discipline from parents because they're afraid to say no. Over-involved parents, however, do better with little kids since toddlers need structure and a sense of safety—but if left unchecked, over-involvement can lead to a loss of control later on in childhood or even adolescence. If your parenting style is too permissive or too involved—or anything in between those extremes—you might want to step back and think about how you're relating to your kids now versus a few years ago.

3) Parents who treat their children with respect

More than just a feel-good concept, respecting your children encourages them to view themselves as capable and valuable individuals. This is especially important if you have young kids, but it can still help older kids who are struggling with their confidence (which is, unfortunately, common during adolescence). This does not mean giving in to everything your child wants — that’s not what respect means. It does mean treating them with a level of maturity: acknowledging their thoughts and feelings, explaining why you disagree with something or rule certain things out (and being honest), and asking how they feel about certain things rather than dictating how they should feel. In other words, parents who treat their children respectfully tend to create children who want to be respectful adults as well.

4) Parents who understand child development stages

A study conducted in 1977 at Western Michigan University showed that children whose parents understood and respected their developmentally appropriate behavior were more cooperative, happy, and confident than children who were forced to grow up too quickly. Kids will naturally push back as they grow up but it’s important for parents to know when no should really mean no instead of being a negotiation tactic. Taking time to listen and understand each stage of child development can greatly affect your parenting style down the road. A few things to keep in mind are these: First, kids don’t learn behavior because you expect them to; they learn because they see you modeling it—what do you do when you get upset? How do you handle stress? How do talk about problems? It all matters!

5) Parents who are aware of boundaries

Parents who are consistent, and set boundaries for their children to follow tend to be more popular among their kids. These kids know what is expected of them, and they aren’t afraid to disobey or defy their parents. They are also generally good at taking responsibility for their actions. Instead of focusing on right and wrong, these types of parents focus on what they expect from their children rather than telling them not to do something because it’s wrong. Kids that live in such a home have a higher level of self-esteem because they have learned that people care about them regardless of how well they follow rules.

6) Parents who accept responsibility for their actions

Children with parents who accept responsibility for their actions, who are kind to them, and who take time to listen to them, do better in school. Parents who have predictable daily routines: Parental routines can be crucial for children with ADHD and other disorders because a solid routine helps minimize stress. A child knows what is expected of him each day and that things will follow a familiar pattern. Parents who are engaged in their children's lives: Involvement includes taking your child with you when you go shopping or out to eat at restaurants.

7) Parents who foster empathy in their children

Empathy is a critical skill. Research shows that children with empathetic parents are more likely to be successful in school, have healthier relationships and develop stable personalities. If you're looking for a way to encourage empathy in your child, consider parenting techniques that foster empathy. Here are 10 ways parenting styles affect children

8) Parents who offer positive feedback

Studies have shown that children with supportive parents who offer consistent positive feedback and praise grow up to be more confident, less anxious, and perform better in school. They also tend to work harder, save more money, and be healthier than those with critical or negative parents. Some argue that praise can lead to complacency or entitlement in some children, but research suggests we shouldn’t overreact to a little confidence boost. In fact, an abundance of praise early on may help protect children from low self-esteem later on. The next time you catch your child doing something right—and really want to let them know it—go ahead: reward their effort by praising them!

9) Parents who teach self-reliance

I highly recommend you read books like The Explosive Child, by Ross W. Greene, which teach parents how to help their kids become more capable of doing things for themselves. For example, my daughter has started to make her own lunches and will be doing her own laundry soon. I have been holding her back from these tasks because I felt she was too young to do them on her own; now I realize it's better for me to take a step back and let her figure it out for herself (with my guidance) than to try to continue doing everything myself so that she won't have any exposure or experience with those activities until she's much older. Or maybe your daughter can't reach the sink when washing dishes?

10) Parents who communicate effectively

Consistently clear communication and guidance about rules, expectations, and consequences for specific behavior help children learn to manage emotions and understand boundaries. Without it, children may struggle with emotional regulation throughout their lives. A lack of effective communication can also create distance between parents and children. In turn, children may feel as though they’re unable to depend on their parents for any type of support. This could lead them to compensate by turning to peers—perhaps at times when they’re most vulnerable—for validation or even as a way to fill an emotional void at home. Parents who play an active role in school: Excelling in education isn’t just about doing well on tests; it’s also about being prepared for life after high school.


It’s a fact that different parenting styles lead to different outcomes. One child might thrive with tough love, while another will find success in an environment where they feel loved and supported by their parents. In today’s post, we discussed ten of these parenting styles, along with tips for applying them to your children. Are you surprised by any of these? What are some of your favorite (or least favorite) methods for handling kids?



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